My Best Friends Wedding

My Best Friends Wedding

“My Best Friend’s Wedding”
“You never know what you have until you reach out and it’s no
longer there.” This quote was given by an unknown source. This is
exactly what Jules is experiencing with her best friend Michael. Jules
went out with Michael for like a month and he fell in love with her,
they broke up, and he fell in love with someone else; Kimmy. Kimmy
is perfect in every way, she’s sweet, bright-eyed, smart, wealthy, and
more. Jules does not like Kimmy that much because Kimmy is so
irritatingly perfect, yet Jules is the maid of honor. In a distinct sort of
way, Jules is jealous. George, Jules editor, and gay best friend, is
pretty much the only sane person in the movie. He try’s to tell Jules
that it wont work out, and has no chance, but she is determined. All
in all, everyone in this movie has bad communication skills and
should work on them.
While sitting in the restaurant, Jules says to George
“sophomore year at Brown, me and Michael had this relationship, that
lasted one hot month......” while she was saying this, she was twisting
her hair around her finger, and kind of apprehensive about
everything. Everything that you do while talking is pretty much bad
commune skills. Like if you fold your arms your supposedly closing
the person out that you are talking to. But I don’t think that closes
people out. I think that if you sit there and roll your eyes, or if your
eyes wander, that’s not a good communication skills because, it
makes you look like you are not paying attention to the person you
are listening to.
Not everyone is perfect when speaking to others but all of the
characters in this movie have bad people skills. In order to perform a
more productive conversation there are a few things you must
remember NOT to do while speaking/listening. You should not twist
your hair around your finger or eat your hair. If you keep ringing
you’re hands out, you won’t have any hands to ring out. Every once
in a while, look at the person that you are having the conversation
with, you don’t necessarily have to stare at them and only them. You
can also make listening noises such as “ugh huh..... oh yeah,
mhmmm..., I understand” phrases like that will help you go far in a
discussion.
Every movie has a conflict no matter what, if its losing a button
to a coat or losing your cat named Butch. In the movie My Best
Friends Wedding, the conflict is kind of like star-crossed lovers, but
they don’t die. Ok, Jules is in love with her best friend Michael, but
Michael is in love with Kimmy. Yes, Michael still loves Jules, but not
in that kind of way. The conflict goes deeper than that though, Jules
is so determined to win Michael, that she almost gets him fired from
his job as a sports writer. While Jules is plotting her ways to win
Michael over, Michael is accusing Kimmy of all of this and thinking
that he isn’t good enough for her. Which may seem to be good for
Jules, it’s not, because right about now, she is really starting to think
and realize what she is doing is wrong.
In conclusion, I think if Jules, Michael, Kimmy and George all
want to be friends still, they should practice talking to themselves
first and see if they really like the way they act to themselves. If
they don’t like what they see, well then they might want to reconsider
how they act towards others while participating in a conversation.
Also, if they want to stop fidgeting then they might want to tie their
hands to the back of a chair or just tie them together. Anything to
draw their attention their speaker. “Life is short and love is hard to
come by so if you find love hold onto it and never let it go.”

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